To full people who seek to lose weight, it often seems that excess weight is an exclusively physiological problem. However, in fact, the reasons for this are very deeper. What exactly prevents the cherished goal? The psychologist Natalya Shcherbinina shares his opinion, who lost 47 kilograms.
Often, people with excess weight are convinced: “I do not eat anything much, I am enthusiastic from one look at the chocolate. I just can’t influence this ”or“ Everything in our family is complete – it’s inherited, I can’t do anything about it ”, or“ I don’t work in my hormones that I will do it with this? Nothing!”
But the human body is far from a closed system. We are surrounded by many events that we react to. And the formation of excess weight is also based on a reaction to stress, and not just a genetic predisposition or hormonal malfunctions.
We often do not analyze the problems, because we are afraid to see the truth in person. It’s much easier to try just not to think about unpleasant things. But, unfortunately, the problems supplanted in this way do not disappear, as it seems to us, but simply switch to another level – bodily.
At the same time, there is nothing superfluous in our body, including weight. If it is, it means that subconsciously to us is so “more correct”, “safer”. What we call “excess” weight is the mechanism of adaptation to the environment, and not the “enemy number one”. So what kind of events do our body provoke to its accumulation?
1. Discontent
Remember how often you stand in front of the mirror and scold yourself for your own forms? How often you are unhappy with the quality or volume of your body? How often get angry with your reflection and shy yourself?
This is the total mistake of most people who want to gain harmony. They turn the path to the body of their dreams into a war with fat, internal bidding and violence.
But the psyche does not care whether there is a threat in reality or only in our thoughts. Therefore, think for yourself: what is happening to the body during the war? That’s right, he begins to make stocks! In such times, it is more logical not to distribute the accumulated, but only increase its number.
A simple exercise for a better understanding of your condition: on a scale from 0 to 100% – how happy you are with your body? If below 50%, it’s time to join in work with your inner world. This is a process. This is the way. But the road is going.
2. Lack of personal boundaries
How a complete person differs from a thin? Do not consider for body cheating, but the difference in thinking and behavior is still, in my opinion, there is. Full people are more often in a state of protection. These are thoughts that spin in their heads and haunt:
- “Around the enemies-give a reason, they will immediately get around you not humanly”
- “Nobody cannot trust anyone-at our time”
- “I am all myself – and I do not need any help, I can handle it without everyone!”
- “In our world, we must be thick -skinned to live calmly”
- “Life and people made me an impenetrable!”
Defending himself, a person automatically begins to increase the fat shell. The good news is that you can change the situation – you only need to change your attitude towards people, yourself and circumstances.
Bad news: for this it is necessary to stop, surrender to introspection, open help from the outside and recall strong traumatic experiences from the past.
3. Fear of love relationships
Excess weight acts in this case as a subconscious desire not to be a sexually demanded partner. Reasons why sex and sexuality can be perceived as something hostile, mass:
- “From childhood, my mother said it was bad! If I found out that I have sex, I
will kill!”
- “When I put on a mini-skirt for my 16th anniversary, my father froze that I looked like a night butterfly”
- “These peasants cannot be trusted!”
- “I was raped”
All these are quotes of living people who have excess weight. As you understand, no matter what diet you choose – we will have a rollback while there is an internal injury that makes the body increase weight, and not to discard it.
In psychology, there is a definition of a sexual constitution, which gives an explanation why some want to have sex daily, but for others this is a tenth business. But sometimes the constitution is only a cover for complexes and fears.
Complexes are “fragments of the psyche”. Emotional injuries that a person has not lived and drags with him all his life, like a bag of decaying potatoes. Because of them, we make our body a “scapegoat” and instead of satisfying sexual hunger we eat up reserves from the refrigerator.